Did I pick the right person? This question inverts the starting and ending points. We do not pick our perfect match because we ourselves are not perfect. The universe hands us a flawless diamond—in the rough. Only if we are willing to polish off every part of ourselves that cannot join do we end up with a soul mate.
— Dr. David Schnarch

RELATIONSHIP COACHING
MARRIAGE COACHING - FAMILY COACHING - PARTNER COACHING

"Denise possesses a natural ability to comfort her clients!" - L.S.

DEFINITION: Relationship Coaching is a more strategic and solution-focused method of counseling that blends Denise's unique background of psychological training and coaching expertise. Some couples feel that traditional marriage counseling actually makes things worse because the process demands that each partner re-hash traumatic fights and emotionally sensitive issues during the counseling session. Denise’s relationship clients look forward to coming to couples coaching; they don’t avoid it or dread it. That’s because she makes each person feel safe, cared for, and heard.

SUGGESTED FOR: Anyone in a relationship who wants help that is more positive and effective than traditional marriage counseling.

TREATS: High Conflict, Trust Issues, Intimacy Problems

RESEARCH-BASED RELATIONSHIP COUNSELING - COUPLES ENJOY!

Denise uses proven research and her training with the Gottman Institute, a premier marriage counseling training program, that teaches counselors to help couples enjoy their relationships, become better friends, learn what things to change, and what to accept. 

designed to help teach specific tools:

  • How to deepen friendship and intimacy in your relationship.
  • How to productively manage conflicts.
  • How to figure out which issues are “resolvable problems" or “gridlock problems”.
  • How to emphasize your relationship’s strengths
  • How to protect your relationship's vulnerabilities

THE ASSESSMENT PHASE

Early in the assessment phase, you will be given written materials to complete to better understand your relationship.

  • SESSION ONE: In the first sessions, we will talk about the history of your relationship, areas of concern, and goals of treatment.
  • SESSION TWO: In the next session, I will meet with you individually to learn each of your personal histories and to give each of you an opportunity to share thoughts, feelings and perceptions.
  • SESSION THREE: In the final session of assessment, I will share with you my recommendations for treatment and work to define mutually agreed upon goals for your therapy

THE TREATMENT PHASE

The length of the therapy will be determined by your specific needs and goals. In the course of therapy, we will establish points at which to evaluate your satisfaction and progress.

THE MAINTENANCE PHASE

In the later stage of therapy, we will “phase out” or meet less frequently in order for you to test out new relationship skills and to prepare for the termination of therapy. Although you may terminate therapy at any time, it is helpful to have at least one session together to summarize progress, define the work that remains and say good-by.

INDIVIDUAL SESSIONS & HELPFUL HOMEWORK

Much of the work will involve sessions where you will be seen together as a couple. However, there may be times when individual sessions will be recommended. I may also give you exercises to practice between sessions.

CONFIDENTIALITY

Due to couples work involving two people, the following information is important to clarify at the beginning of therapy. In order for counseling information to be released, both members of the couple must provide their written authorization. Since the couple is the client, one member’s desire to have information released, is not sufficient. Also, individual sessions are usually part of the treatment process, and what you say in those individual sessions is considered part of the couple therapy. Therefore, this information may be discussed in our joint therapy.

NO SECRETS POLICY

Secrets withheld from a spouse/partner can be destructive to the relationship and counterproductive to therapy. Therefore, I will not maintain secrets including knowledge of infidelity.

Denise believes there is a better way. By using a coaching approach she helps couples zero in on solutions. She couples addresses specific personal projects, business successes, general conditions and transitions in the client's personal life, relationships or profession by examining what is going on right now, discovering what your obstacles or challenges might be, and choosing a course of action to make your life be what you want it to be. The process is more strategic and focused on solution-focused method of counseling that blends Denise's unique background of psychological training and coaching expertise.